Friday, November 18, 2011

Here's hoping it doesn't come to any of this!

We have a fire pit in our backyard. . .that may be the future home of my copy of TCOYF.

1 comment:

  1. I can't stop laughing. That was very funny. (Especially because there is a certain amount of grim, tough pride in updating your sig line...)

    I've had a post-idea running around in my head for a while, but i can never quite start it. Here's something that actually comes from fertile folks... whenever I say that Jack was born by IVF, it seems like the person asks "Oh, how long were you trying for?". In my head, I'm screaming. Really, this is the direction you'd like to take our conversation? How long were we in deep emotional pain? How long did I subject my body to hormonal stimulation and occasional humiliation? Did I go through enough rigor to satisfy the insanity of resorting to I-V-F? It seems that I earn the most stripes by "waiting and relaxing" until I've earned the right to more intense treatment.

    I'm sure they want to hear that it was a really long time because that would make for such a good story. Of course I always say "1 year", which is exactly how long it took us to realize that IVF would circumvent my extreme risk for higher order multiples.

    I don't understand why people want to know how long it took for me to have a baby. What can they possibly get out of that knowledge? Oh, right, freedom to judge! I might have tried for too long, or for not long enough - but they better figure out where I am in the spectrum.

    (OK, so that probably seems like an unrelated response to what you posted! The video reminds me of that issue so strongly. There are so many weird expectations about fertility...and there are weird expectations about infertility, as well)